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Power Posing and the Impact on Presence

“‘Power Posing’ Before A Interview Makes You Much More Hireable” by  Max Nisen posted November 23, 2012 (viewed September 18, 2016).

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Harvard Professor Amy Cuddy has found that taking up a short “power pose,” an open and expansive stance, can acutally change body chemistry and make people more confident.

Her new research with Caroline Wilmuth and Dana Carney tests power posing in a real, high-impact social situation: a job interview.

Often, realizing that someone else has power over them, people hunch over their phones before an interview, which makes them feel even more powerless.

In the experiment, subjects that prepared in a different way, by adopting a power pose before a mock interview, got significantly higher scores from evaluators for hireability and performance.

Here’s how the authors sum up their results:

“This experiment demonstrates that preparatory power posing affects individuals’ presence during a job interview, which in turn influences judges’ evaluations and hiring decisions. Compared to low-power posers, high-power posers appeared to better maintain their composure, to project more confidence, and to present more captiving and enthusiastic speeches, which led to higher overall performance evaluations.”

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Many interactions in the workplace have what Cuddy calls “power asymmetry.” One person controls the future of another, which creates an imbalance. “Power posing” is one way that people can change feelings of powerlessness, and get some of the performance advantages that come with being on top.

“‘Power Posing’ Before A Interview Makes You Much More Hireable” by Max Nisen posted November 23, 2012 (viewed September 18, 2016).

keyThis Blog is made available by me, an attorney licensed to practice law in Connecticut. I am not a recruiter, hiring manager, or career agent. Nor am I an expert in any of the areas or issues related to job search activities. I am merely sharing my job search experiences an interests with you. This Blog/Web Site is designed to provide accurate information on the subjects covered but should not be considered professional or legal advice.

You Are The Boss Of Your Work Happiness

Good days don’t just happen, they are made.

Caroline Webb, an expert in behavioral science and author of the book, How to Have a Good Day, believes that “there is so much people can do to create good moments in every day. Even if you can’t make a really unpleasant job feel wonderful, you can learn to work within the constraints you have to make a situation better.” Source: Cosmopolitan magazine, February 2016.

fotolia_74038494Here are Caroline Webb’s 12 tips for achieving happiness in the workplace:

  1. Start your day by setting an intention. Setting an intention is the process of deciding what you want to achieve, forming a clear picture of it, and then allowing your subconscious to lead you to it. Setting an intention activates your power and energy toward the achievement of your goals.
    • Each morning, think about the day ahead.
    • Acknowledge your feelings — are you grumpy, sad, happy, expectant, etc? — so that you can understand how you are affected by your feelings.
    • Write down your intention so that you can remind yourself of it throughout the day.
  2. Plan a peak. Decide what you are most looking forward to each day, however small or mundane. According to Webb, “small becomes bigger when you think about it.”fotolia_72016274
  3. Imagine your best you. Envision the most important task of the day and picture yourself successfully completing that task. Visualize each step you will take and the potential outcome.
  4. Protect your thinking time. Set aside uninterrupted, distraction-free, time to work on your most complex or difficult task. Group similar activities together, like answering phone calls or responding to emails, working on finances, or preparing for meetings. Complete one activity before moving on to the next. fotolia_84576891
  5. Express appreciation. Compliment or thank someone and tell them why you are praising them. Noticing that you have made someone’s day better will boost your own morale.
  6. Head off work conflicts. Nothing spoils your day like a work interaction gone horribly wrong. Stay calm and acknowledge the other person’s frustration. Offer solutions to resolve the conflict in a way that benefits both of you.
  7. Connect with a friend. Use your time on the bus or train, on a work break, or at lunch to network or connect with other people. You don’t have to meet in person, you can use technology to text, email, or video chat.fotolia_100527985
  8. Fake a good mood. Smiling is the new power pose. According to Webb, breathing slowly and smiling can trick your brain into a better mood.
  9. Label your frustrations. Writing down a problem will help you to move past it. When you feel angry or upset, write out the facts of the situation and how you feel with stark objectivity and honesty. Then read what you have written and decide what your best self would do to resolve the situation.
  10. Get out of your chair. Movement improves mood, memory and focus. Keep it simple – take the stairs, do stretches, walk the long-way to the water fountain or restroom, sit on an exercise ball for an hour, do lunges in your cubicle, etc.  fotolia_94580166
  11. Express gratitude. Identify three things from your day for which you are grateful – no matter how small or mundane. Write them down, tell them to your partner, or simply reflect on them in a quiet moment. You can keep a gratitude journal so that you can look back at all of the things for which you were grateful.
  12. Power down at night. Before bedtime, turn off the screens, put away your phone, and take off the headphones. Take a few minutes to do a calming activity like yoga or a crossword puzzle to wind down before bed so that you sleep restfully and wake refreshed.

You can find more information in Cosmopolitan magazine for February 2016 at pages 161 through 163.

Now, get to it . . .

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This Blog/Web Site is made available by me, an attorney licensed to practice law in Connecticut. I am not a recruiter, hiring manager, or career agent. Nor am I an expert in any of the areas or issues related to job search activities. I am merely sharing my job search experiences with you. This Blog/Web Site is designed to provide accurate information on the subjects covered but should not be considered professional or legal advice.

Wishing You A Wonderful New Year

fotolia_9396754Before the parties begin and the social networks are filled with well wishes and blessings I wanted to take this quiet moment to wish you and yours a healthy, happy and productive New Year. I greatly appreciate that you have taken the time to read my posts. You have been a wonder and an inspiration to me as I move forward in my journey.

Below are quotes the I hope will guide you with hope, inspiration, and energy into the New Year.

  • “A good beginning makes a good end” – English Proverb
  • “Drink from the well of yourself and begin again” — Charles Bukowski, author
  • “This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change” — Taylor Swift, singer
  • “The beginning is the most important part of the work” – Plato, philosopher
  • “Something is going to come out of this. Something new. This can end you up in a whole new place—a better place, a much more open place” -Pema Chodron, author
  • “And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been” — Rainer Maria Rilke, poet
  • “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language, And next year’s words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning.” — TS Eliot (Little Gidding), author
  • “You raze the old to raise the new” — Justina Chen (North of Beautiful), author
  • “You will never win if you never begin” — RH Schuller, motivational speaker
  • “Whatever you do or dream you can do — begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it”. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, writer and statesman
  • “Morning will come, it has no choice” — Marty Rubin, aphorist/philosopher
  • “Celebrate endings – for they precede new beginnings” — Jonathan Lockwood Huie, author

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Finally, “Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.” Ludacris, musician

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This Blog/Web Site is made available by me, an attorney licensed to practice law in Connecticut. I am not a recruiter, hiring manager, or career agent. I am not an expert in any of the areas of job search. I am writing to share my job search experiences with you. This Blog/Web Site is designed to provide accurate information on the subjects covered but should not be considered professional or legal advice.

Think Positive & Change Your World

Norman Vincent PealeNorman Vincent Peale is thought by many to have created the concept of “positive thinking.” Born on May 31, 1898 in Brownsville, Ohio, Peale was a Methodist minister and the author of several books including The Power of Positive Thinking. Peale died on Christmas Eve, 1993.

Peale did not have any formal mental health training and was criticized by mental health professionals for daring to discuss self-empowering and other encouraging concepts aimed at helping people to achieve their best self. Peale described his work as a combination of theological practice and a strategy for helping people to grow in a positive way through honest self-analysis, forgiveness and character development.

“The blows of life, the accumulation of difficulties, the multiplication of problems tend to sap energy and leave you spent and discouraged. In such a condition the true status of your power is often obscured, and a person yields to a discouragement that is not justified by the facts.” The Power of Positive Thinking, page 15. The Power of Positive Thinking was “written with the sole objective of helping the reader achieve a happy, satisfying, and worthwhile life.”

The Power of Positive Thinking contains numerous religious references that you will not hear from modern day motivational speakers. You may find these references to be irrelevant or unhelpful but don’t be put off. I found the stories and anecdotes of people that Peale knew or researched to be extremely interesting and relatable to my personal experiences.

fotolia_94824716Peale’s concepts are relatively simple and can be applied by those of us engaged in job search. Here are two examples from The Power of Positive Thinking:

“Believe in Yourself! Have faith in your abilities!” Peale believed that “without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. But with sound self-confidence you can succeed. A sense of inferiority and inadequacy interferes with the attainment of your hopes, but self-confidence leads to self-realization and successful achievement.” The Power of Positive Thinking, page 6.

To build self-confidence, Peale suggested formulating a mental picture of success and never letting this image fade. Over time, this image will become more detailed and, eventually, no matter how badly things seem to be, we will have this positive image of success in our minds.

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Which do you choose?

“A Peaceful Mind Generates Power.” Peale coined the phrase “suggestive articulation” to describe a technique for emptying one’s mind of negative self-talk and filling it with creative and healthy thoughts.

Peale’s premise is that if we deliberately and forcibly voice a positive thought over a negative one we can change our world. This means cancelling out the negative thoughts about ourselves (our personal abilities and qualities) with positive, healing thoughts.

To do this, we need to repeat to ourselves (out loud and in a positive and respectful voice) peaceful and quieting words like “tranquility,” “serenity” or “peace”.  Repeating lines from a favorite poem, book, song or quote will also work. As will telling ourselves a silly story about our pets or children or a joke that always makes us smile or laugh.

In terms of job search, have you ever experienced what you believe to have been an unsuccessful job interview? You may not even have left the building before you started to berate yourself with negative self-talk. You may have thought to yourself that you are a huge failure who will never get a new job. You may have gone so far as to tell yourself that you do not deserve to be successful in your job search because you are not a good person or you are not as smart or talented as the other candidates.

Rather than beat yourself up, Peale would encourage you to replace these negative thoughts with positive self-talk. Do not tell yourself that you are a tremendous failure. Replace those words with these: “I’m disappointed in my performance but now I understand more about interviewing and I will practice and become better skilled and knowledgeable.”

As children, we all learned the power of words to cause harm or to heal. Negative self-talk drains the body and mind of energy and vitality. Negative self-talk might cause you to stop your job search in its tracks because you want to avoid further feelings of anger, loss, disappointment, or depression.

Take a page from The Power of Positive Thinking. Relieving your mind of damaging negative self-talk and repeating positive, healing words or phrases could encourage you to engage in a more effective job search. For example, a new focus on your job search activities that will identify the best position in terms of your abilities and help you to do better on your next interview. As a result, your positive words may change your world.

Now, get to it . . .